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Had some wonderful times on vacation and worked on clearing my head, even while dealing with stress from a SNAFU going on in the midst of it. Everything was taken care of okay, but bleh.. definitely had a major moment of "d'oh." Stupidly ate something that I shouldn't have and got some gluten into myself which has caused me to be all icky for the past week and a half.

Been working on finding a new place to live as the vacation helped clear my head enough to realize both how necessary it was for me to move, being incompatible with current household, and also things that I could do to help make moving more feasible financially. Dealing with the shuffle of most people not actually bothering to respond, some people responding that they were looking for something specific which I don't match or that the place was already taken, and so far two places where I just wasn't comfortable -- one in particular where I was horrifically uncomfortable the entire time I was there.

I don't terribly like the idea of moving into a place with people I don't know, but that seems to be what fits right now. Especially if I can find something in the month-to-month category so that I'm not locked into a year-long lease or something.. I do have a good lead that I unfortunately missed last night because I didn't notice my phone battery died. Returned the call earlier and hopefully will hear back later today -- the person has three rooms for rent, all for decent prices and with utilities included, closer to my work than I am now. Could work out very nicely, depending how things go.

Busy, busy, busy.. oh, by the way, there's a movie in limited release that I really want to see: Paprika. It's a Japanese animated film by Satoshi Kon, the guy who made Perfect Blue, Memories, Millennium Actress, Tokyo Godfathers and Paranoia Agent. Awesome guy. The movie involves a near-future where psychiatrists use machines that allow them to enter your dreams as a form of therapy. One of these machines is stolen, and Paprika is the alter-ego of a therapist who's trying to stop that person from wreaking havoc on people's dreams.. or something like that. It looks wonderful.

Short notice, but would anyone like to see that this weekend, maybe? (And come to think of it, I still have to see Day Watch..)


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Jun. 21st, 2007 05:24 pm (UTC)
Best of luck finding a new place!
Jun. 21st, 2007 06:10 pm (UTC)
Thank you! It has been a crazy adventure already, and I'm barely more than a week into it.. have a great time on your vacation, by the way. (^*^)
Jun. 21st, 2007 05:33 pm (UTC)
The house I live in is going to have a room for rent soon, though I'm not sure how soon. The landlord doesn't do month-to-month leases, though.
Jun. 21st, 2007 06:09 pm (UTC)
Well, I'd be looking for any decent deal in the area, really.. I think you're about 15 minutes from where I work, and it would be nice to have someone familiar around. If there's any more info you can send my way, my Gmail account is "kasha.re".
Jun. 21st, 2007 11:55 pm (UTC)
Landlord's out of town at the moment, so I don't know how soon it'll be available (within the month, I'm sure) or what his current price is. Leases here are typically 1 year. If you have any questions about living arrangements, though, mail hummingwolf at yahoo.com.
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Jun. 22nd, 2007 01:21 am (UTC)
Is playing in DC and in Arlington; I'm guessing DC would be better for you. Will post more to LJ sometime Friday, I guess.
Jun. 21st, 2007 11:29 pm (UTC)
> I do have a good lead that I unfortunately missed last night because I didn't notice my phone battery died.

Will you please quit sabotaging yourself?? If you are expecting a phone call, maybe PROACTIVELY check the phone to make sure it's ok. You have till September and then you're gone whether you have a place or not.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 12:23 am (UTC)
I wasn't expecting a phone call. I emailed the guy and he responded by phone instead of email. This is kind of thing isn't normally an issue, since I usually hear my phone making warning noises when the battery's dying. For some reason, I didn't hear it this time.

I'm not sabotaging myself, and I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't add unnecessary drama to my life that creates more stress and does sabotage me.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 01:43 am (UTC)
===Actually, she is calling you out on a pattern that has followed you for a while, and is thus not adding unneccessary drama. You tend to let events completely derail you.

===And as for drama...well, you do quite well enough to your own life, that I acknowledge that you need no help in this regard. Your drama tends to be the sort that keeps you from getting past your own rather significant inertial field, and not the sort that is of the more theatric variety...but you do indeed sabotage yourself, and you do it quite often. Helen is simply pointing it out, as you have passed her threshold for being willing to deal with such things. Snapping at her crosses MY threshold of being willing to deal with it.

===Her date of September one stands. I would recommend sooner. You are quite correct, there is an incompatability how we function and how you do. We actually get things done.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 05:40 am (UTC)
I'm afraid that's not possible. If I don't place a deadline on you, you'll just keep sliding and botching chance after chance to move out of here - possibly not deliberately, but the effect is the same as if it was. What I said stands. I hope you leave sooner (it's been a year longer than you originally told me already). But on September first I change the locks.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 11:42 am (UTC)
So you know...I have posted this.
===Hrm...I see you have, rather than responded or dealt with issues, just "unfriended" both Helen and myself. I have posted this, as I believe in folks knowing what I say about them.
===aekiy has outstayed his welcome in the home of rialian and helen99,and has been told that he needs to find another place to live, preferably as soon as possible.

===We would like to thank folks for looking out for us, and letting us know what Kash has been saying and doing.

===After having given Kash over two years to get his lyme disease treated, to get stready employment, to go to school and work on a degree, and to allow him to build some sort of savings (by charging a rather miniscule rent), we have re-evaluated the situation, and decided that the detriments we have had from having him live in our home have exeeded the good we have done.

===Every time there has been a possibility of him finding a plce, he has sabotaged it. He is no longer in school. He has no savings. He has made it a point to spread some very odd ideas about us to others. (Once again, thank you all who have been very kind to keep us up to date on that, and have thought to actually investigate for yourselves rather than take his image as true). While we do not doubt that he has some illness....the timing of some of the episodes is becoming REALLY suspect.

===We have put up with quite a lot, and are ready to have our hearth back.

===Thank you for your time....have a pleasant evening.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 07:21 pm (UTC)
Re: So you know...I have posted this.
And I said this in response to one of the comments:

When did you hear of major conflicts in our house? I understand the problems, but I've seen the self-sabotage in action for a while now. For example, last week he ate a salad that had croutons in it - he removed the croutons but his gluten reaction is such that a homeopathic dose makes him sick for a week. He knew he shouldn't have eaten it. He knew he was in the midst of a house search. But he ate it anyway. Then later he let his phone die when he had contacted a number of people about possible places to stay. This is a pattern that has been repeating itself as long as he's been there. He'll go for two days and be really gung ho and call about 8 places, then proceed to botch each one. eAch time it's a great reason. Each time it's "not his fault". And each time he fails.

Guess what - the common denominator is him.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 07:35 pm (UTC)
Re: So you know...I have posted this.
And another response to a comment:

Yeah, the bit about being able to go out all weekend to see people, but not having ANY time or energy to get a new job or a place...

Just... No.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 07:52 pm (UTC)
Take a year lease somewhere metro enough where you have a choice of nearby job market. Really. It'll open up exponentially the opportunities to live somewhere, including rental companies you can actually make fix things, and being in your own space or shared with someone else who's in it for a similar timeframe, rather than a spare room of some stranger's house with their own weird rules.

There are a lot of protections in Maryland that if the place is bad enough, you can get out of a lease, and the penalties for leasebreak actually aren't bad in some places. I've had to do it before, it it wasn't the worst thing that's ever happened to me.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 07:56 pm (UTC)
Thank you very much. Those are really good points to consider. If the room in hummingwolf's place opens up, that's pretty close to some buses and Metro lines, I think, since she uses them herself to get around.. but am continuing to contact lots of places. Good point to follow, though. Thanks again.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 08:00 pm (UTC)
Sounds like that place would be pretty cool, then. And with people you know!

Best of luck finding something awesome quickly, hon.
Jun. 22nd, 2007 08:02 pm (UTC)
Thanks a bunch. I am trying.. I don't know what I'm doing, really, but I am trying as well as I can. I also have a possible room with Tim and Erin that will be opening up in about three weeks.. going to be looking at that after work tonight.
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